Counseling or therapy is an investment – of time, money, and effort. Like all the other investments in life, we want to get the most out of it. Here are some tips to make your couples therapy or relationship counseling yield as much return as possible.
To make couples or relationship counseling effective, couples are encouraged to be prepared to:
Be open. In therapy, be prepared to be vulnerable, because you may learn things about yourself that is not at all comfortable. Therapy is about change – change from a dysfunctional state to a healthier state. And change is not comfortable, but it is required to make your relationship work. If you are not open to listening to how you could make your relationship better and make the necessary changes, then you are not ready for counseling.
Be committed to working. In therapy, you may learn that some of your behaviors have been destructive to your relationship, and some changes will be required of you. It is much easier to run away than to go through this process. “Working” means being strong, being open, being prepared to continue feeling uncomfortable, knowing and embracing the knowledge that we are not perfect human beings.